I was putting a lot of pressure on myself at this point. Though, neither Rob or J was telling me I had to choose between them. Rob was simply telling me that he wanted to get to know me better before I started dating J. And neither man was telling me that I could only get to know one of them at a time. Neither put a time-line on me, or any pressure to make a choice. But I still felt the internal pressure. Eventually a choice would have to be made. I certainly couldn't go on hanging out with both of these guys indefinitely!